Parenting Coordination
In
high-conflict separations or divorces, parenting issues of all types bring
parents back to Court for resolution. In addition to further damaging the
necessary (for the children) business-like co-parenting relationship, this
strategy is economically inefficient both for families and for the Court. An
alternate strategy is to manage such disputes as they arise through the use of
a Parenting Coordinator (PC) {ORS 107.425(3)} who facilitates appropriate
parenting, reduces conflict, and avoids recurring Court cases. Functioning with
the Court's authority for a specific period (a renewable one year agreement is
common), the PC is available on an as-needed basis to resolve co-parenting
disputes.
The PC provides a venue for resolving matters, including
minor conflicts, that need to be resolved but which do not justify an expensive
(in many ways) return to the courthouse.
The Parenting Coordinator (PC) first assists conflicted
co-parents to cooperatively develop plans consistent with their children's
best interests. In the event these efforts fail, the PC is empowered by the
Court to make informed and impartial decisions. The Parenting Coordinator
cannot change the order of a Court, but may decide on the design and
implementation of strategies consistent with such orders. If either parent
feels there is sufficient reason to challenge a decision, they still have
recourse to the Court, though may be subject to costs. Orders appointing a PC
will typically require development of a ‘paper trail’ that includes
notifying the parties and their attorneys of a decision within 10 days, and
notifying the Court to request direction in certain circumstances including
non-compliance.
Parents typically divide costs equally unless there is a prior
agreement or order of the Court specifying otherwise. All matters related to
fees must be determined prior to referral -- the PC does not act as broker or
negotiator with respect to distribution of costs.
Prior to commencing service, the PC becomes acquainted with
the parents, the children, the history of parental conflict, and issues of
present concern. Document review, individual/joint meetings, consultations with
historically involved third parties, and other data collection methods may be
employed.
As a PC, the commitment is to helping families resolve
conflicts through assisting with problem-solving and making decisions, as
necessary. The ultimate beneficiaries are the children who, free from the
middle and effects of co-parental conflict, can go about the business of
developing and celebrating their lives.